About Me

Who I am and what I do?

How long have you been doing what you do, and how did you become a relationship expert?



To answer this question, it’s probably best that I share with you a defining moment, and a resulting “compelling story”, that brought me to where I am today – coaching people like you on exactly what to do to, creating healing from within so you can have the relationships of your dreams. That defining moment in my life happened over a period of a few years.

The amazing life I have now was not always this way. About nine years ago, my life began the start of a slow implosion with the ending of a 20-year marriage.

From the start, this young military marriage showed signs of strain and was unknowingly set up for failure. Being in such a dire need of a connection, feeling alone, lonely, and unloved; I overlooked many red flags for the sake of what I believed to be true love. Determined to make things work, I figured that if I could be perfect then he would love me and everything would work out. I optimistically believed with every new base it would get better. The years and the stress took a toll and we finally separated and headed towards divorce. I was not perfect enough and he did not want me.

Following hot on the heels of separation and newfound freedom, I jumped headfirst into a post divorce relationship. A relationship that was the complete opposite of what I had spent my last 20 years living. He loved me and accepted me with all of my flaws. It was a very love filled relationship. I felt cared for and he treated me like a queen; calls and gifts; a fun-filled life. I was in heaven and feeling as if I had won the lottery.

Then one day it abruptly ended in silence; no more words spoken between us. He stopped talking to me – just like that. I kept asking myself, “What happened?” I got no response.

I was confused and emotionally shattered, and feeling very unwanted. Depression was settling in all around me. When reality fully set in that he actually left without saying another word, I kept asking “What did I do wrong?” I still got no response. Tiny pieces of my destroyed self-esteem and self-confidence littered an already unstable internal floor.

The mask I wore to hide the oppressive inner pain kept getting tighter with each passing day. Life was stressful, depressing, and unfulfilling.

In 2013, this slow implosion grew to a full on explosion.

That year began with a series of unexpected events and I completely lost who I was as a person in this world. Single and sad, children grown and gone, dealing with the death of a beloved pet, grieving the loss of an identity wrapped up in a career I no longer had, in debt like most people, and a string of failed dating relationships that left me feeling undesirable. The only question rolling through my mind was, “How in the hell did I get here?” I was a hot mess!

In a moment of feeling lost and lonely, I decided to attend a speed-dating event to lift my spirits, and ended up winning 2 tickets to a financial seminar, really you want me to bring a date to my financial nightmare?

Up until that weekend, I had never realized the depth of my belief of how unworthy I was of happiness, love, and money, and all of that caused me to believe I didn’t matter in this world or ever be good enough for anyone or anything, and deserving of nothing, including success in my business.

I discovered when I struggle in my relationships – especially with the one with myself, that struggle would then be present in my other relationships in life, with love, and with money. My life was at stake – I needed to make some serious choices.

I cleaned up my past by looking within and healing – I discovered my Hero within. I started teaching other women how they can do the same thing: to build healthy connections and conversations that create radical shifts, that bring in abundance in all areas of life and I watched their lives transform. I have since made a commitment to dedicate the rest of my professional life to helping people (or women) breakthrough their inner blocks, heal their past and create outstanding relationships, have the LOVE they know in their heart they want and totally deserve.

Who are your clients?

I work with people who are ready to put an end to unfulfilling relationships and ready to heal the relationship with themselves so they can begin attracting the relationship of their dreams. People who boldly want to change the conversation, because the conversation is the relationship, and once you change that you can create anything you desire.

I work with men and women who are unsatisfied with the status of their relationships and life, and the repeated disconnection and failure of these relationships. Men and women who deeply desire to have relationships that are successful and truly meaningful.

What makes you different from other “success coaches”?

Although we will occasionally touch upon time management and other “life coach-y” things, you have me as a confidant and life flow expert and consultant. I work on the inner and outer principals for success in relationships from an organic and spiritual perspective. What that means to you is that you get a wise-sage-meets-kick-butt authentic relationship and life coach. I’m also very spiritual and I don’t pretend to hide it either. Because I’m not delicate, you’ll always get a straight to the point quick and honest response from me.

I’m sincerely concerned with how you get your dream relationship – to help you STOP wasting time and leaking your energy and your power where it doesn’t belong and get you focused on relationship building activities sooner. I don’t beat around bushes or waste time. You may not like what I have to tell you – but you can be sure I will always tell you the truth. The truth about what’s standing in the way of your success and how to get rid of it FAST so you can start getting results in record time (and I throw in a healthy dose of humor and inspiration, which always helps!).

What type of personality do you work best with and what is expected of me?

The Attract Your Soul Mate Now workshops, products and programs were created for people who are absolutely excited and dead serious about breaking out of their rut, breaking through resistance, creating their dream relationship and ending what I call “the spinning anxiety syndrome” – it means not running around all day long, beating yourself up anymore saying: “I should be this way or that WAY to find my soul mate!” They were created for you to transform your relationship patterns within a few months (sometimes weeks!), which will eventually lead you to gaining more confidence, visibility, and finally attracting the relationship and lifestyle of your dreams. That’s what I call FREEDOM.

Being a high achieving go-getter myself, I’m known to work best with other high achieving go-getters, people who are committed to their success no matter what, and who are super-ready to get going and just want to know exactly what steps to take to get the dream relationship and soul mate. My clients often tell me – “just tell me what to do and I’ll do it!” Consider what you’ll do with me to be a high-octane crash course on everything you need to know to succeed in your relationships. You will be expected to take serious and consistent action. No excuses anymore, just a very different way of thinking and full support while you achieve this incredibly exciting goal: confidence and love, consistently and in record time.

For what type of professionals are your programs NOT going to work?

Please know I’m very selective in who I work with and I cherry-pick my clients, choosing to (gently) turn away people who aren’t suited for my programs and won’t get the results for which they would have signed up for. (It wouldn’t be fair to them.) The Attract Your Soul Mate Now programs are NOT for those who are not financially invested and fully emotionally committed in healing the relationship with them FIRST so they can attract the relationship of their dreams. It’s been my experience that people in financial and or emotional crisis do not trust the recommendations I give them and do not do the work (probably because they spend so much time worrying about being alone and emotionally needy.) If you fall within this category, it’s absolutely OK. We’ve all been in times of financial and emotional crisis at one point or another. Do yourself (3) favors:

  1. Get some money coming in and then call me. This will take the edge off and provide a little more peace of mind. Mostly, it will de-clutter your mind enough to focus on your Attract Your Soul Mate Now assignments and the BIG picture. Once you start seeing the people you attract regularly as a result of our work.
  2. Sign up for the free Relationship Readiness Quiz , The free information will give you an idea about whether your ready to take this journey and your goals until you’re ready to work with me one-on-one.
  3. Make a point to read the “OH FLUX! Blog” for weekly tips. The tips are sent every week and will give you LOTS to think about.

Doing these three things will really help you get primed for our work. When you’re ready, call me and we’ll get you started. (I’m in no rush and will be here when you need me.) Other types of personalities I won’t work with (without exception) are the whiner or the chronic skeptic, as well as individuals who consistently make excuses for not getting their assignments done or challenging every aspect of the program. If you are one of these people, I gently and respectfully ask that you not call and I hope you understand why. We’ll probably just not work well together and I wouldn’t want you to waste your time or money. Is that fair?

What exactly is Attract Your Soul Mate Now™ system and what does it include?

Sky rocketing your confidence and your attraction system begins with understanding your true value, where your power really comes from, how to manifest what you want in relationships (including more money), creating powerful intentions that get you results as well as the outer pieces to powerfully get the you the relationship of your dreams. Here’s what the Journey gets you to do:

  1. Discover Your Path and Past

We examine where you are in your current relationships and get CRYSTAL clear about your intentions, what you want to experience in your personal life and relationships. Before you can manifest what you want you have to KNOW what you want. You’ll learn the difference between setting goals and intentions, the biggest mistakes people make when trying to apply the law of attraction to their personal life and relationships and pave the way for exciting opportunities, synchronicities and love to find you.

  1. Transform Your Present

Mostly you might already know what you need to be doing but yet are still struggling in procrastination, feeling stuck ad spinning in circles. You’ll be learning proven techniques for breaking through your inner resistance, self doubt, fear, anxiety and all of that “stuff” that keep you playing small so that you can begin loving and honest action in your relationships.

  1. Create Your Ideal Relationship

Together we’ll find out exactly who is your ideal soul mate. Who you would love to meet, what type of person is looking for you, and we’ll really drill down to what kinds of personality traits, and specifics of your ideal soul mate so you can easily begin attracting them on an inner level and begin identifying where they hang out and how to engage them so you save time.

  1. Engage Your Ideal Partners

We’ll spend considerable time creating your unique relationship blueprint, your BIG WHY for desiring your dream relationship and true soul mate. The key we’ll focus on is the “HOW” to engage your ideal partner to take action, raise their hand in regards to creating the ideal relationship with you; we’ll accomplish this by creating a clearly defined relationship blueprint.

  1. Focuses In and Celebrate!

We’ll look at what you should be focusing on to move your relationships forward. What actions you need to be taking each day to leverage your time, effectiveness and soul mate attraction ability so that your relationships continues to flourish consistently and you can create the deeply meaningful and loving relationship of your dreams. We’ll focus a lot of our time celebrating wins and creating the new habit of celebrating what’s showing up for you. What you focus on expands and everything you are learning and experiencing is of your creation. Your confidence will sky rocket as you consistently produce results over and over again! Celebrate what shows up so you can pave the way for even more success!

Does this really work?

Yes! The result of our work is an approach to shifting your mindset and your actions so that with time, and consistency you’ll sky rocket your confidence in your ability to manifest your relationships.

What results can I expect?

You can expect to:

  • Gain unshakeable confidence in yourself – (a lot of my clients tell me that is worth the investment alone).
  • Learn proven techniques for releasing your internal resistance and self-sabotaging tendencies so you can take action and start living your passion and purpose with ease.
  • Get crystal clear on who your ideal partner are who will immediately see what your worth and value every moment with you.
  • Create your divinely defined relationship statement
  • Create new benchmarks for your relationship blueprint action plan every 90 days to keep pulling yourself into your future as opposed to pushing so hard
  • Receive specific relationship tools for you to use: “just add water”
  • Learn time saving techniques that will dramatically cut down your learning curve
  • Implement your unique Relationship Blueprint so you can attract your soul mate.

Can I contact some of your former clients to see what it’s like to work with you?

Yes, I encourage you to! Please read  Client Testimonials on home page, and read all . See which ones you feel drawn to, either because the person has gotten the results you want to get too. Then feel free to email or call them and ask what they got from working with my programs and me.

How quickly can I expect results?

That depends on how quickly you can make those inner shifts. Some clients are ready to go and sky rocket their success in a very short time frame, sometimes even a few weeks while others have a bit more work to do first. It also depends on how far along you are in your own healing and personal growth.

How can I guarantee myself that I will attract my soul mate in record time?

Do all of your homework. Be totally committed to your success. Understand that this is a process, a proven one that works if you take action and implement all of the steps. All my clients who have diligently applied every step of Attract Your Soul Mate Now™ have successfully grown their relationships, in much less time than they would have on their own AND have met more true potential partners than they’ve done doing what they did before.

Will I recover the investment I put into this coaching program?

Yes, a resounding Yes! How much money to do you invest in your heating bill, in your education, in your clothing and food? Well, what about your relationships – your happiness really and the people you spend the most time with?

Basically the question is on you – how much longer are you willing to suffer and struggle being alone or in bad relationships? What’s it costing you in terms of your mental health – sanity, peace of mind, finances (maybe staying small so the other won’t be antagonized by your success or small not playing your full potential because you have to take care of them) what’s it costing YOU to not be in the relationship you KNOW in your heart you are meant to have? What’s it costing you each year? What will it cost you in 2-3-5 years to be in the exact same place? Your friends getting married having babies… your friends going away on vacation with their spouses and you’re still flipping through tinder or worse feeling trapped in a bad relationship with someone who doesn’t honor you or REALLY see you…You have the answer…what is it costing you…

Patricia, based on everything I’ve read and heard about you, I know you’re the one I want to learn from. What are my options for getting started with you?

Congratulations on making a decision for relationship success! I’m happy to work with you to achieve your relationship goals… There are 3 ways to work with me.  I prefer to work one on one with my clients to really help them get FASTER results and am now offering more intense programs. To get started with skyrocketing your confidence and your relationships check out my Programs page.